Wednesday, October 28, 2009


I was reading a post in my mom's group about activities and our 3 year olds, i.e. how many activities they are involved in, what kind of activities. I came to realize that Jerome isn't involved with anything and I think it may contribute to his lack of maturity. I try talking to Jerome and I don't feel like he really understands what I'm saying. Yes, we can carry on a conversation but I don't think he really *gets* what I'm saying. For example if Jerome is having a meltdown and I try to talk to him about how he is feeling he really doesn't understand what I mean.

It makes me wonder if I'm the only one that feels this way and I tend to blame myself. I work full time and when I get home I still have to make dinner, wash dishes, laundry, pick up the house and give the kids their baths and it really takes away from time that I should be spending with them. Maybe because of that I spoil my kids too much and their lazy - I don't know. Some days I think I'm a great parent and other days I tend to second guess myself - this parenting thing is a lot harder than I thought.


Tonya said...

If you are doing the best that you can do and putting forth your best effort with what time and resources you have with all things considered, then you can't second guess yourself because you're already doing the best to your ability and that is all anyone can ever ask for. I know you're talking about your older son, but I can relate to a degree with Maddie and my husband being deployed. I am so busy doing everything else that there are some days where I just don't have the time to devote to her that I wish I had and I wonder if that contributes or could even be the direct cause of her learning delays. All families are different so you just keep doing what you're doing the best way that you know how and that is what makes a great parent, not the number of activities your kids are involved in or their depth of understanding what you're saying.

Angie said...

Ditto what Tonya said! You can even see in the photos you past how good of a mama you are! Both your kids are so happy looking all the time! Mommy's are meant to be busy, and kids pick up on that. They learn good values of hard work and how to get things done from us. If we did nothing but play they wouldn't think adults do anything but play. Hahaha, rambling now...

Don't second guess yourself mama!